Thursday, March 27, 2014

I'm back

For the past couple of weeks, I have felt a little strange. I’m quiet and reflective, and I thought that meant I was sad. But this morning, a co-worker asked how I was doing, and the word “sad” didn’t quite fit… so I thought about it for a few minutes. 


The truth is I sort of lost myself for a few years. Post-secondary is just stressful in general. It’s hard to give yourself the attention you need when your brain is getting filled to the brim with knowledge, papers are frequently due, and midterms are always right around the corner.

Now that I’m done school and settled into my job, I have come back to myself in a way. For the last four years, I was going through the motions of living life, but I wasn’t really connected to myself in any real way, if that makes sense. My inner voice had been hushed for a very long time… and now it’s screaming!

So, the next time someone asks, “How are you?” I will tell them, I have never been better.

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

My two best pals

Three years ago, my boyfriend's mom took in a discarded puppy (the previous owners were getting a divorce, and neither of them wanted the poor thing). We told her not to do it because she already had a dog, cat, scorpion, tarantula, and snake. But she has a generous heart and cannot turn away an animal in need. When she went to go and pick up the puppy, my boyfriend and I waited at her house, talking about how silly this was and that the last thing she needed was another mouth to feed.

As soon as she got home with the puppy, I felt awful for telling her she shouldn't have rescued him. He was, quite honestly, the cutest little munchkin I had ever seen. Seven-month-old Charlie won me over immediately. He hopped, bounced, and zoomed around the house (all eight pounds of him) with a heart beating faster than I knew was possible.

Charlie

We bonded instantly. I had always been fascinated by dogs but knew little about them as I hadn't spent much time around them. Charlie changed all that. I could usually be found at my boyfriend's mom's house, snuggling and talking to Charlie. Sometimes, she let me bring him to my parents.

A few months after he arrived in my life, Chris's mom let me take Charlie home for a weekend sleepover. The weekend sleepovers went on for about a year. Eventually, I wouldn't return him on Sundays but on Tuesdays or Wednesdays instead. One day my boyfriend, his mom, and I were having lunch. My boyfriend asked if I could adopt Charlie. She hummed and hawed. She loved him too. But one month later, she let me keep him.

When my boyfriend and I bought a house, I was so excited Charlie would have a backyard to run around in and a home all to himself. We were a cozy family of three… until one year ago when I decided to foster a three-month-old black mutt who was found on a reserve. His name was Chance. It was supposed to be temporary. We were only going to look after him until someone wanted to adopt him, I swear. But my boyfriend and I fell in love with his sweet and even-tempered nature, so we adopted him.

Initially, I wasn't sure how to split my time and love between two dogs. I felt guilty that Charlie would have to share me. I thought it was unfair to Chance, our new puppy, that I would always love Charlie a little bit more. I needn't have worried. A few months passed, and one day I woke up and realized I loved them both the same.

Chance, shortly after he came into our home

My mood and their behaviour change multiple times per day, which means I often like one more, but I always love them equally. I didn't have to split my love for Charlie in half and share it with Chance. I love Charlie as much as I always have, and I love Chance equally. They mean the world to me and have taught me so much about myself. I have learned I am patient, loving, generous, affectionate, and a pushover.

Charlie and Chance

Charlie: Thank you for wagging your tiny tail, kissing my nose, and crying to be picked up every day when I get home from work. I love our snuggle sessions and how you crawl onto my chest and burrow your little face into my neck. I love how you are so good with my grandma. When you let me cry into your fur after a sad day, I am very aware of how fortunate I am to have you in my life. You can get away with anything because as soon as I look into your big brown eyes, my heart melts, and I can't help but think how perfect you are.

Chance: I love our hugs. I wrap my arms around you, and you rest your head on my shoulder, not moving until I am ready for the moment to be over. When I look into your soulful eyes and talk to you, I feel you understand me. You made me the happiest gal in the world the day you came into our home, walked over to me sitting on the floor, and crawled into my lap. You knew you were home, and so did I. You make me feel safe. I am so grateful for you.